I completed my Bachelors Degree at the State University of New York College at Buffalo with a degree in Elementary Education/Education of the Deaf. I received my Masters Degree in Early Childhood Development at SUNY College at Buffalo as well. I went on to complete a Masters of Social Work degree at the University of Buffalo. I have been certified as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the states of New York and California and have been in practice since 1987.
I also have been certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist trained in The Grief Recovery Method®. I offer a 6-8 week program (either group or individual sessions) which will help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. This includes pet bereavement and how to help children grieve.
In the course of my career I have worked in a wide variety of clinical settings, as well as having my own private practice.
In treatment with me you will learn to make better life decisions, effectively express emotions, manage difficult times and situations, create and achieve realistic goals, and gain the courage to change the ways you participate in your life.
As a therapist I am compassionate, respectful, authentic, active, and engaging. My approach is warm, caring and genuine. I create an atmosphere of safety that allows you to share and explore your journey. I stimulate and challenge you, support and guide you throughout the therapeutic process.
My empathic and intuitive abilities are strong and this enables me to understand what life is like in your shoes. My passion for this work is unmistakable, as is my unwavering faith in the human spirit’s ability to heal and evolve. I come from a family systems approach and my technique includes cognitive behavioral work, psychodynamic theory and the use of metaphors. While my work is grounded in theory and clinical training, it is also infused with intuition and a wealth of personal experience.
Together we will explore and evaluate the psychological, emotional, and behavioral choices you have made that brought you to this point in your journey. I would feel honored to be allowed to guide you along a new path in the service of giving yourself permission to change your life in a positive manner.
"After my mother’s death in June, 2017, I felt lost. I found Martha’s flyer at a local Starbucks and it was meant to be. Our one-on-one sessions were exceptional going through the exercises in the Grief Recovery Method book. Each week was challenging and rewarding at the same time. Identifying other losses, not just with death, but also moving, relationships, jobs, health and selling family home was overwhelming. What made the experience remarkable was with working with Martha. Martha shared her losses too. Martha is a compassionate therapist, teacher and listener. I highly recommend participating in the grief recovery method and working with Martha."
Marty is by far the most gifted therapist I have work ever worked with. Her warmth, humor, and deep compassion made it very easy for me to open up to her almost instantaneously. I have come to her for an array of issues and her wisdom is very grounding and comforting. She has a way of making you feel seen, understood and empowered. I couldn't ask for a more talented and loving therapist. I recommended her to a good friend who is also a fellow therapist and very selective about who she works with. She was also astounded by Marty's many gifts including her ability to hold the space in a profound way.
"Marty has been such a huge positive for our relationship. First she provides a safe and comfortable atmosphere even when discussing difficult issues. In an intuitive, wise and practical way she offered us 'right now' advice for getting through tough times. Her wisdom is further guiding us in future planning by helping us to learn better communication technics. Coming from a non-judgmental and compassionate person makes hearing and learning easier."
Letting go; Feelings of failure, shame, embarrassment; Life dream changes
Family roles; Expectations; Learned patterns; Family secrets
Internalized judgement and criticism; Learned behaviors; Comparisons and shoulds
Conflict; Communication; Expectations; Work environment
Self-concept; Expectations; Feelings of loss and disappointment; Challenges
Marriage; Pregnancy; Parenting; Empty nest; Aging parents; Deaths
Expectations; Styles; Roles
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others: retirement; moving; pet loss; financial and health issues; empty nest, among them.
The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society.
Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or for any other reason.